We obsess over labels when all we really need is presence. My truth: coaching is not a doing thing. It’s a being thing. It’s me with you. I am being me, and I help you be more of you. The other day someone asked me about the difference between coaching and therapy. I get that […]
Read MoreWhat experiences are you allowing that rewire your brain to make you less than you could be? Your brain can’t tell the difference between a blessing in disguise and a poisoned chalice. It just adapts. Last month, I shared with you my conviction that Relationship Friction shapes us into who we can grow into. Its […]
Read MoreYou are being let down by a ghost 👻 Not by your manager. Or your colleague. Or your team member. Rather: you are being let down by the version of people that exists ONLY in your head. When I was in Australia recently, everyone called us “you guys.” Waiters, guides… everyone. At first I found […]
Read MoreNow you know AI is an ineffective coach, be careful you don’t hire its human equivalent 🤖 I am concerned the coaching industry is increasingly defaulting to a standard of polite validation over rigorous challenge — unwittingly mimicking the AI sycophancy I deplored the other week. There is a dangerous misconception that high-impact coaching is […]
Read More“Alexandra, you’re already out of a job,” an AI creator warned me recently. AI has several PhDs in psychology. As such, it can give you well-meaning advice. It will list relationship skills, explain active listening, and offer tips to resolve conflict. It will write you a long recipe about how to influence. It knows all […]
Read MoreWould you like to know why you’re abandoning your New Year’s resolutions? Did you wince when you read that? If so, it wasn’t the first time, was it? There is no shortage of research and analysis on how quickly we drop our New Year resolutions. Psychologists call it “self-sabotage”: doing what’s harmful and suffering about […]
Read MoreHello and welcome to this month’s neuro blog! And of course: best wishes for happy 2018! In last month’s blog, we discussed the fact that voluntary attention – what we consciously focus on – is the instrument thanks to which we can shape our reality – rather than it being just the result of an interpretative process based […]
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