The Difficult Colleague: How Changing Your Interpretation Changes Your Reaction In this article series, I explore how Relationship Friction and Relationship Wisdom shape career satisfaction and progression through apparently innocuous, yet critical, workplace moments. And yet, I seem to be developing a habit of departing from that original plan 🤔 The first departure had me […]
Read MoreThe day I imagined my client’s results singing. “My results should speak for themselves”, he said crossly. And then it happened: I suddenly visualised his results like dancing peanut M&Ms. These dancing peanut M&Ms were also singing. Singing his praises. In Dolby stereo. To this day, I pray this lasted only seconds. What a lovely […]
Read MoreThe biggest mistake professionals make is confusing office politics with political behaviour In this article series, I explore how Relationship Friction (RF) and Relationship Wisdom (RW) shape career satisfaction and progression through apparently innocuous, yet critical, workplace moments. Last month, we sidestepped to delve into recognisable signs that RF is slowly wreaking your career. As […]
Read MoreHow beating cancer got me thinking 🤔 I was diagnosed with cancer on 5 June 2020. Just out of the first COVID confinement. Two cancers, by the way. Not to brag but to show how scary it was. In-between surgeries, I resolved: “If I beat this, I’ll examine my life for meaning and purpose.” When […]
Read MoreI walked into a Huawei store in Shanghai and found a Porsche. While in China just recently, I was moved to reflect about luxury. Here I was: surrounded by smartphones, tablets and connected watches. But also diamond watches, a high-end Berline, an impressive SUV – and a sports car. Apple, Samsung, Rolex, Lexus, Mercedes and […]
Read More“So you’re saying, it’s not just me?” Another question I hear too often. And also: “Can you make the ache disappear?” Gut-wrenching 🤛 So many feel isolated in the workplace — even though they are surrounded by people, instant messages, meetings — noise. A lot of attention may even be paid to them — not always of […]
Read More5 Signs Relationship Friction is Stalling Your Career In this article series, I explore how Relationship Friction (RF) and Relationship Wisdom (RW) shape career satisfaction and progression through apparently innocuous, yet critical, workplace moments. A number of you have reached out to discuss how to more precisely recognise RF. This article is therefore a brief […]
Read MorePresence beats stress. It starts in your feet đź‘Ł “Alexandra, I’m so 🤬⚡️🔥💥 🌶️ 🔴✨stressed.” “I can’t think straight”, she added. I’ve heard this many times. People so stressed they don’t believe they can handle their session. Or much of anything else. Caroline was suffering from the usual forms of stress: Information overload: emails, messaging, […]
Read More“It was none of my doing”. My client said it with a heavy sigh. I replied: “Too bad because then it will be none of your fixing.” I invited her to draw a responsibility camembert. When I mention a French cheese, clients find it amusing and fill it out with a little smile. Taking responsibility […]
Read MoreHave you been secretly wondering if it’s time to quit? A checklist to make that important call. In this age of AI replacement, forward-thinking professionals are considering their career prospects proactively and critically: “How do I remain relevant and value-adding?”, they ask. More and more clients are now admitting they wonder “how long I can […]
Read MoreDo you know what you actually need — or just what you want? While you chase what you want, you may be neglecting what you actually need. We frequently confuse our wants with our needs. This confusion creates a lot of unnecessary unhappiness. Let me first show it to you in relationships. Sally thinks she […]
Read MoreAligned, Never Compliant: Handling Workplace Requests That Don’t Feel Right In this article series, I explore how Relationship Friction (RF) and Relationship Wisdom (RW) shape career satisfaction and progression through apparently innocuous, yet critical, workplace moments. We began with the Direct Contributor, whose RF risk was misreading their task. The First-Time Manager’s RF risk was […]
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