Flight as Relationship Wisdom, not cowardice: in praise of avoidance. When I was 16, philosophy entered my life to feed a hunger I didn’t even know I had: I wanted meaning. Often confused, I also wanted advice: not my parents’, biased, nor my friends’, just as clueless as I. I appreciated philosophy’s variety of […]
Read MoreWhen crisis hits at work, reach for your purple crayon 🖍️💜 Are you in crisis right now? If not, have you ever experienced one and can you remember it? In the book Harold and the Purple Crayon*, a boy escapes catastrophe thanks to a magic crayon. In the grip of calamity, do you wish you […]
Read More“My manager is toxic. Can you really help?” I hear this far too often from prospective clients. Don’t despair: Relationship Wisdom can help even with toxic people 🤛 When it comes to toxic people, very little helps. That’s true. But it’s not nothing. I had three toxic managers over the course of my 24-year career. […]
Read More“You will function better. It might not be at your current workplace though.” This is what I told a prospective client the other day. Three main blocks hinder ambitious professionals from thriving and advancing in their career: 1️⃣ fear – of reputation damage, loss of opportunity, and even rejection/marginalisation 2️⃣ lack of clarity – confusion […]
Read MoreWe obsess over labels when all we really need is presence. My truth: coaching is not a doing thing. It’s a being thing. It’s me with you. I am being me, and I help you be more of you. The other day someone asked me about the difference between coaching and therapy. I get that […]
Read MoreWhat experiences are you allowing that rewire your brain to make you less than you could be? Your brain can’t tell the difference between a blessing in disguise and a poisoned chalice. It just adapts. Last month, I shared with you my conviction that Relationship Friction shapes us into who we can grow into. Its […]
Read MoreNow you know AI is an ineffective coach, be careful you don’t hire its human equivalent 🤖 I am concerned the coaching industry is increasingly defaulting to a standard of polite validation over rigorous challenge — unwittingly mimicking the AI sycophancy I deplored the other week. There is a dangerous misconception that high-impact coaching is […]
Read More“Alexandra, you’re already out of a job,” an AI creator warned me recently. AI has several PhDs in psychology. As such, it can give you well-meaning advice. It will list relationship skills, explain active listening, and offer tips to resolve conflict. It will write you a long recipe about how to influence. It knows all […]
Read MoreWould you like to know why you’re abandoning your New Year’s resolutions? Did you wince when you read that? If so, it wasn’t the first time, was it? There is no shortage of research and analysis on how quickly we drop our New Year resolutions. Psychologists call it “self-sabotage”: doing what’s harmful and suffering about […]
Read MoreRelationship Wisdom: The Antidote that Transforms Relationship Friction into Career Momentum There’s a particular kind of professional exhaustion that has nothing to do with workload. It shows up as dread before certain meetings, the weight of unresolved tensions, or that persistent sense that you’re working twice as hard for half the recognition. You deliver excellent […]
Read MoreRelationship Friction: The Hidden Force That Breaks Careers ‘Relationship Friction’ (RF) is one of those concepts people recognize immediately when it is named yet struggle to describe while they are living inside it. Among other things, it shows up as tension in meetings, second-guessing after conversations, resentment that quietly accumulates, or a persistent sense that […]
Read MoreFinally understand why your conversations with Millennials hit a wall. I often coach managers who struggle with their Gen Y / Millennial team members. This classic case of Relationship Friction seems a near-universal pain point in professional life right now. It’s exhausting for everyone. My diagnostic: my clients’s professional whys do not align with their […]
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