How beating cancer got me thinking š¤ I was diagnosed with cancer on 5 June 2020. Just out of the first COVID confinement. Two cancers, by the way. Not to brag but to show how scary it was. In-between surgeries, I resolved: āIf I beat this, Iāll examine my life for meaning and purpose.ā When […]
Read MorePresence beats stress. It starts in your feet š£ āAlexandra, Iām so š¤¬ā”ļøš„š„ š¶ļø š“āØstressed.ā āI canāt think straightā, she added. Iāve heard this many times. People so stressed they donāt believe they can handle their session. Or much of anything else. Caroline was suffering from the usual forms of stress: Information overload: emails, messaging, […]
Read MoreDo you know what you actually need ā or just what you want? While you chase what you want, you may be neglecting what you actually need. We frequently confuse our wants with our needs. This confusion creates a lot of unnecessary unhappiness. Let me first show it to you in relationships. Sally thinks she […]
Read MoreAligned, Never Compliant: Handling Workplace Requests That Donāt Feel Right In this article series, I explore how Relationship Friction (RF) and Relationship Wisdom (RW) shape career satisfaction and progression through apparently innocuous, yet critical, workplace moments. We began with the Direct Contributor, whose RF risk was misreading their task. The First-Time Managerās RF risk was […]
Read MoreWhen You Drive a Cross-Functional Initiative, Youāre Putting Your Organizational Credibility on the Line In this article series, I explore how Relationship Friction and Relationship Wisdom shape career progression through apparently innocuous and yet critical, often recurring workplace moments. We began with the Direct Contributor, examining what happens when a task is assigned and misunderstood. […]
Read MoreWhen You Delegate a Task as a First Time Manager, No Less Than the Future of Your Entire Team Is at Stake Last month, we looked at a defining moment in the career of a Direct Contributor: the moment when a manager entrusts them with a task or project. For the employee receiving the […]
Read MoreNo Less Than the Rest of Your Career Is at Stake When Your Manager Entrusts You with a New Project In previous articles, we explored two ideas that sit at the heart of how careers really unfold: Relationship Friction and Relationship Wisdom. The first describes those subtle interpersonal tensions that quietly erode trust, confidence, and […]
Read MoreRelationship Wisdom: The Antidote that Transforms Relationship Friction into Career Momentum There’s a particular kind of professional exhaustion that has nothing to do with workload. It shows up as dread before certain meetings, the weight of unresolved tensions, or that persistent sense that you’re working twice as hard for half the recognition. You deliver excellent […]
Read MoreRelationship Friction: The Hidden Force That Breaks Careers āRelationship Frictionā (RF) is one of those concepts people recognize immediately when it is named yet struggle to describe while they are living inside it. Among other things, it shows up as tension in meetings, second-guessing after conversations, resentment that quietly accumulates, or a persistent sense that […]
Read MoreIs your team dysfunctional? 5 ways to tell ā and what to do about it If you are the manager of a dysfunctional team, There is constant interpersonal drama instead of strategic work. Your team simply cannot deliver Your projects are delayed if not altogether failing. Paradoxically, your team members are individually gifted but their […]
Read MoreWhy feedback conversations feel likeĀ GroundhogĀ Day. How many times has this happened to you? You sit down with a team member whose work just isnāt meeting the mark. You want them to succeed. You might even really like them. But no matter how many times you talkā¦ nothing changes. Now youāre living your Groundhog Day: the […]
Read MoreāIād like to punch him in the faceā, Donald Trump, 22 February 2016 about a protester at one of his rallies Conflict surrounds us: armed struggles abroad, political attacks at home. We also know conflict in our personal lives ā at home, in the schoolyard and at work. Here is a video about coping with […]
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