“My manager is toxic. Can you really help?” I hear this far too often from prospective clients. Don’t despair: Relationship Wisdom can help even with toxic people 🤛 When it comes to toxic people, very little helps. That’s true. But it’s not nothing. I had three toxic managers over the course of my 24-year career. […]
Read MoreWhen You Drive a Cross-Functional Initiative, You’re Putting Your Organizational Credibility on the Line In this article series, I explore how Relationship Friction and Relationship Wisdom shape career progression through apparently innocuous and yet critical, often recurring workplace moments. We began with the Direct Contributor, examining what happens when a task is assigned and misunderstood. […]
Read More“You will function better. It might not be at your current workplace though.” This is what I told a prospective client the other day. Three main blocks hinder ambitious professionals from thriving and advancing in their career: 1️⃣ fear – of reputation damage, loss of opportunity, and even rejection/marginalisation 2️⃣ lack of clarity – confusion […]
Read MoreWe obsess over labels when all we really need is presence. My truth: coaching is not a doing thing. It’s a being thing. It’s me with you. I am being me, and I help you be more of you. The other day someone asked me about the difference between coaching and therapy. I get that […]
Read MoreWhen You Delegate a Task as a First Time Manager, No Less Than the Future of Your Entire Team Is at Stake Last month, we looked at a defining moment in the career of a Direct Contributor: the moment when a manager entrusts them with a task or project. For the employee receiving the […]
Read MoreWould you like to know why you’re abandoning your New Year’s resolutions? Did you wince when you read that? If so, it wasn’t the first time, was it? There is no shortage of research and analysis on how quickly we drop our New Year resolutions. Psychologists call it “self-sabotage”: doing what’s harmful and suffering about […]
Read MoreNo Less Than the Rest of Your Career Is at Stake When Your Manager Entrusts You with a New Project In previous articles, we explored two ideas that sit at the heart of how careers really unfold: Relationship Friction and Relationship Wisdom. The first describes those subtle interpersonal tensions that quietly erode trust, confidence, and […]
Read MoreRelationship Wisdom: The Antidote that Transforms Relationship Friction into Career Momentum There’s a particular kind of professional exhaustion that has nothing to do with workload. It shows up as dread before certain meetings, the weight of unresolved tensions, or that persistent sense that you’re working twice as hard for half the recognition. You deliver excellent […]
Read MoreRelationship Friction: The Hidden Force That Breaks Careers ‘Relationship Friction’ (RF) is one of those concepts people recognize immediately when it is named yet struggle to describe while they are living inside it. Among other things, it shows up as tension in meetings, second-guessing after conversations, resentment that quietly accumulates, or a persistent sense that […]
Read MoreThe Israeli-Palestinian conflict is the epitome of Relationship Friction I hesitated to post about this: such a loaded and incredibly delicate topic. Let me make it clear: my intention with this post is NOT to make light of this war. My point is this: Relationship Friction is the root cause of conflict. It can take many forms. […]
Read MoreEmployers ask you to manage. You also need to be able to cope. The difference between the two is crucial. Many of my clients face excessive workloads. Incessant demands impossible to plan for. Ever-rising business volumes without the right processes. In response, they are expected to manage. Managing is both cognitive and behavioural. It demands […]
Read More“The most powerful relationship you will ever have is the relationship with yourself” – @Steve Maraboli, Speaker, Author, Athlete, Veteran Relationship friction also exists within. Develop your relationship wisdom by listening to another voice – the one of your authentic nature. It’s easy to point the finger at somebody else. At work, it’s bad bosses, […]
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