In this article series, I explore how Relationship Friction (RF) and Relationship Wisdom (RW) shape career satisfaction and progression through apparently innocuous, yet critical, workplace moments. A number of you have reached out to discuss how to more precisely recognise RF. This article is therefore a brief departure. Having defined RF and RW in earlier […]
Read MorePresence beats stress. It starts in your feet đŁ âAlexandra, Iâm so đ¤ŹâĄď¸đĽđĽ đśď¸ đ´â¨stressed.â âI canât think straightâ, she added. Iâve heard this many times. People so stressed they donât believe they can handle their session. Or much of anything else. Caroline was suffering from the usual forms of stress: Information overload: emails, messaging, […]
Read MoreâIt was none of my doingâ. My client said it with a heavy sigh. I replied: âToo bad because then it will be none of your fixing.â I invited her to draw a responsibility camembert. When I mention a French cheese, clients find it amusing and fill it out with a little smile. Taking responsibility […]
Read MoreHave you been secretly wondering if it’s time to quit? A checklist to make that important call. In this age of AI replacement, forward-thinking professionals are considering their career prospects proactively and critically: âHow do I remain relevant and value-adding?â, they ask. More and more clients are now admitting they wonder âhow long I can […]
Read MoreDo you know what you actually need â or just what you want? While you chase what you want, you may be neglecting what you actually need. We frequently confuse our wants with our needs. This confusion creates a lot of unnecessary unhappiness. Let me first show it to you in relationships. Sally thinks she […]
Read MoreAligned, Never Compliant: Handling Workplace Requests That Donât Feel Right In this article series, I explore how Relationship Friction (RF) and Relationship Wisdom (RW) shape career satisfaction and progression through apparently innocuous, yet critical, workplace moments. We began with the Direct Contributor, whose RF risk was misreading their task. The First-Time Managerâs RF risk was […]
Read MoreFlight as Relationship Wisdom, not cowardice: in praise of avoidance. Â When I was 16, philosophy entered my life to feed a hunger I didnât even know I had: I wanted meaning. Often confused, I also wanted advice: not my parentsâ, biased, nor my friendsâ, just as clueless as I. I appreciated philosophyâs variety of […]
Read MoreWhen crisis hits at work, reach for your purple crayon đď¸đ Are you in crisis right now? If not, have you ever experienced one and can you remember it? In the book Harold and the Purple Crayon*, a boy escapes catastrophe thanks to a magic crayon. In the grip of calamity, do you wish you […]
Read MoreâMy manager is toxic. Can you really help?â I hear this far too often from prospective clients. Donât despair: Relationship Wisdom can help even with toxic people đ¤ When it comes to toxic people, very little helps. Thatâs true. But itâs not nothing. I had three toxic managers over the course of my 24-year career. […]
Read MoreWhen You Drive a Cross-Functional Initiative, Youâre Putting Your Organizational Credibility on the Line In this article series, I explore how Relationship Friction and Relationship Wisdom shape career progression through apparently innocuous and yet critical, often recurring workplace moments. We began with the Direct Contributor, examining what happens when a task is assigned and misunderstood. […]
Read MoreâYou will function better. It might not be at your current workplace though.â This is what I told a prospective client the other day. Three main blocks hinder ambitious professionals from thriving and advancing in their career: 1ď¸âŁ fear â of reputation damage, loss of opportunity, and even rejection/marginalisation 2ď¸âŁ lack of clarity â confusion […]
Read MoreWe obsess over labels when all we really need is presence. My truth: coaching is not a doing thing. Itâs a being thing. Itâs me with you. I am being me, and I help you be more of you. The other day someone asked me about the difference between coaching and therapy. I get that […]
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