No Less Than the Rest of Your Career Is at Stake When Your Manager Entrusts You with a New Project In previous articles, we explored two ideas that sit at the heart of how careers really unfold: Relationship Friction and Relationship Wisdom. The first describes those subtle interpersonal tensions that quietly erode trust, confidence, and […]
Read MoreRelationship Wisdom: The Antidote that Transforms Relationship Friction into Career Momentum There’s a particular kind of professional exhaustion that has nothing to do with workload. It shows up as dread before certain meetings, the weight of unresolved tensions, or that persistent sense that you’re working twice as hard for half the recognition. You deliver excellent […]
Read MoreYou think apologizing will make it better? Think again! Just recently, a client asked me to review an email to their manager. Two phrases stood out: “I hope you won’t think me forward.” And: “I trust this email won’t anger you.” At first glance? Respectful and even empathic. In reality… Those two sentences would damage […]
Read MoreRelationship Friction: The Hidden Force That Breaks Careers ‘Relationship Friction’ (RF) is one of those concepts people recognize immediately when it is named yet struggle to describe while they are living inside it. Among other things, it shows up as tension in meetings, second-guessing after conversations, resentment that quietly accumulates, or a persistent sense that […]
Read MoreWhy feedback conversations feel like Groundhog Day. How many times has this happened to you? You sit down with a team member whose work just isn’t meeting the mark. You want them to succeed. You might even really like them. But no matter how many times you talk… nothing changes. Now you’re living your Groundhog Day: the […]
Read More“Don’t confuse “familiar” with “acceptable”. Toxic relationships can fool you like that.” – Steve Maraboli, Speaker, Author, Athlete, Veteran Wisdom and Courage: to know when to act differently, and then to do so. This may sound obvious, but is this how you actually respond when the situation demands it? Do you instead remain trapped in […]
Read MoreA Template for a Constructive Performance Assessment (click below to view the video or read on if you’d prefer!) In this last offering of 2013, I am returning to the topic of performance assessment as many of you will be presently engaged in performance appraisals, whether as recipients or as managers. Frequently in the two capacities. Let […]
Read MoreKnowing how to Listen is Key to Gaining Influence in the Workplace (click below to view the video or read on if you’d prefer!) In this article, I thought I would discuss 3 core principles for effective listening. But first, let’s answer this: why bother listening? 1. When you listen, you learn. If you assume […]
Read MoreHow your Boss Affects You (click below to view the video or read on if you’d prefer!) In this post, I am going to review four types of so-called ‘bad bosses’ and examine the consequences for you, their team member. There are more than four types – my own inventory currently lists 14 types! The […]
Read MoreGetting Along with the Most Important Person in your Work Life (click below to view the video or read on if you’d prefer!) This month, I am sharing with you a four-part model which I have developed to help you look at your relationship with your boss. To repair it if it has soured. To improve […]
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