Would you like to know why you’re abandoning your New Year’s resolutions?
Did you wince when you read that? If so, it wasn’t the first time, was it?
There is no shortage of research and analysis on how quickly we drop our New Year resolutions.
Psychologists call it “self-sabotage”: doing what’s harmful and suffering about it.
How can you beat self-sabotage? Self-compassion, accountability buddies, positive affirmations, among others – including the ubiquitous SMART goals.
We all know the truth: SMART goals are just as unhelpful as a new mantra if you don’t address the root cause.
To change, it’s not enough to know what you target. It’s not even enough to know how to change.
The Relationship Wisdom pivot: Ask not what, nor how, nor why—ask WHO.
Who is that person with the wish to change?
Success or failure depends entirely on your relationship with yourself.
It’s about how you think about yourself. It’s about what you believe you deserve.
When you struggle to change, there is absolutely a knowledge gap. But it’s an internal one.
You don’t know what it takes for YOU to achieve that goal.
You need to meet that stranger first.
You need to identify your unique relationship with food – rather than a new diet.
You need to discover your relationship to your body – instead of a new gym class.
You need to understand the Relationship Friction you create in the office – not a new leadership training.
As the Dalai Lama once said: “You don’t solve an internal problem with an external solution.”
Are you ready to take a gutsy look inside so that you can finally change something on the outside? 🛡️
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