“The most powerful relationship you will ever have is the relationship with yourself” – @Steve Maraboli, Speaker, Author, Athlete, Veteran
Relationship friction also exists within.
Develop your relationship wisdom by listening to another voice – the one of your authentic nature.
It’s easy to point the finger at somebody else.
At work, it’s bad bosses, critical colleagues, resistant staff and challenging clients.
Have you noticed? When you point the finger at someone, three are pointing back – at you.
I’ve been talking about difficult relationships for three posts now. Have you considered that one of them might be your relationship with yourself?
I observe the following three challenges time and again in my practice:
1️⃣ We are our own harshest critics. We know this, and yet it doesn’t seem to help us silence that inner voice, does it? Despite being evidently capable, Helen said: “I don’t have the skill set”. Her harsh inner critic devalued her abilities. She nearly refused an assignment – risking disappointing her manager and losing credibility with her peers.
2️⃣ We internalise others’ views and expectations. I was once told I was unfit to lead a team of quants without a statistics degree. Luckily, I balked and sold my complementary skill set as ideal instead.
3️⃣ We lack self-compassion, a concept devised by psychologist @Paul Gilbert. When overpowered by self-criticism and others’ opinions, we lose authenticity and struggle to resource ourselves in tough times.
If we’re not at peace with ourselves, how can we possibly engage confidently with others?
What story are you telling yourself that’s holding back your career aspirations?
What role might you be playing in the workplace challenge that keeps you up at night?
Isn’t it time to transform that difficult relationship with yourself into your next career opportunity?
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